So I was talking to my mom on Tuesday afternoon and I was telling her about a situation one of my friends is currently in, and my mom said that I need to be more supportive. I said to her "What makes you think I'm not being supportive?" and she replied by saying "I know you and I know that you are very strong with people and tend to push them overly hard. You need to stop talking and just listen."
Then, on Wednesday afternoon she told me I must be careful because I can come across overly aggressively and people can get the wrong message simply. Now, to some extent this it true. I love breaking people's perception, and irrespective of whether I think they are right or wrong I like making people think about why they believe something, or why they think something.
I don't care what their conclusion is, and I don't care if I agree with their conclusion I just want them to think about why they believe something. And in most cases I will push people pretty hard, and fairly far before I am happy that they believe something for a reason.
Now, I know that by doing this I probably alienate quite a few people but I guess for me the truth is that if you aren't willing to hear what I have to say then we're going to have a problem anyway. I probably do come across as overly strong at times, but for the most part it isn't intentional. I want to be firm, but I don't want to shatter people's lives.
I don't like being wrong, and perhaps that's why I push people so hard. I believe that truth and being right is what really makes a difference in the world. I don't really care if you're wrong, I just want to be right. In fact, I don't mind being wrong if it means that I know what is right. And I push myself even harder than I push the people around me. Why I say, do or believe anything is more important to me than living at all.
So do you think that by pushing people around me I push them away? Should I be pushing the people around me at all, or should I just let them be? In my opinion if you can't take hearing what I have to say then we're probably not going to be good friends at all because I spill the beans on any topic at any time. No qualms.
To be fair, I probably should shut up a bit more though...
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ReplyDeletewell, personally, i don't think you're pushy or agressive. i think you're a thinker and an arguer and you question and debate. and even though we don't agree sometimes, we can agree to disagree. and thats the key: holding to your guns, but accepting others with their guns too.
so keep pushing. but just be aware of who it is that you are pushing (thats what she said). some people can't handle being questioned and its usually because they are insecure or uninformed.